How to Keep Self-Doubt From Sabotaging Your Success

I’ve had a lot of success in my life, but I’ve also had a lot of times I’ve failed.
Right before I started my new site, I had a revelation. I noticed that I had so many projects in the past that I was excited about when I started…but then they went nowhere. I noticed a correlation between every instance. Every time I’ve “failed” it was because I gave up too early. I stopped looking for opportunities. I stopped putting the work in. I didn’t share my idea with the world or look to others for support. So how do you keep self-doubt from sabotaging your success? Here’s what helped me.

How to Keep Self-Doubt From Sabotaging Your Success

How to Keep Self-Doubt From Sabotaging Your Success

When I “failed” I was filled with self-doubt, and I asked myself:

  • What if it doesn’t work out?
  • What will people think about me starting something?
  • What if I try…and fail?
  • What if I don’t have the experience?
  • What if I do all this work and it doesn’t work out?
  • What will my employer think?

Through the conversations I’ve been having with some of you, I know that you feel the same. You struggle with starting something but not seeing it though. You’ve told me you struggle with following through, and getting rid of the self-doubt and fear of uncertainty. But, by not going after it, you could face regret later on.

I did things very differently this time. I used techniques that have helped me get more motivated than ever, grow my network, and most importantly, stick to what I said I would do.

Take an audit:

  • Take an audit of the goals you started but haven’t completed.
  • If you decide one of the goals wasn’t worth it, ask yourself why. Reflect on what you have learned that you can use in the future.
  • Reflect on why you stopped. Was it self-doubt and a lack of confidence?
  • Ask yourself if they are worth it. If they are, find an accountability partner and get started.
  • Commit just ten minutes a day to doing one thing towards your goal. I started by committing mere minutes a day towards it and it’s grown so quickly.
  • If you decide one of the goals wasn’t worth it, ask yourself why. Reflect on what you have learned that you can use in the future.
  • Reflect on why you stopped. Was it self-doubt and a lack of confidence?

Instead of filling my head with questions of fear and self-doubt, I asked myself:

  • What if it works out? What are the possibilities?
  • What if I can inspire one person to love themselves?
  • What if I can help one person do something they love?
  • Who will I become if I follow my intuition? Is it the person I’ve always wanted to be?
  • What if I don’t do anything? What will my life trajectory look like?
  • Will doing nothing get me to my two year, or five year goal?

These questions will inspire you to take action. When you think back on things that you started, but didn’t complete, I want to remind you that “failure” is not necessarily a bad thing. It’s an opportunity to learn fast, change direction, and move forward instead of being stuck in a bad decision. For every project I started but didn’t complete, I learned more about myself and important skills like how to do market research, build websites, and build an online presence. All of the things I’ve worked on and “failed” at along the way, have helped me today.

By Reese Evans, the founder of Yes Supply Co. Reese helps female creatives, and future girl bosses, create a blog, business, and life they love. Image via J. McLaughlin!

19 Responses to How to Keep Self-Doubt From Sabotaging Your Success

  1. Jennifer Mullady says:

    There is no other way to have personal growth and success other than picking up that rock that you sit on and examining what’s underneath. The stuff that you don’t want to look at – the things you hide even from yourself – become the tools that help you become a better you.
    A great insightful article. I wish I had read it thirty years ago!

  2. Cristina says:

    Love what Reese has to say here for overcoming self-doubt! Such an important thing to put into practice. Definitely going to give a few minutes a day to working towards my goals and hopefully that grows into something more!

    X,
    Cristina
    cristinawashere.com

  3. Whitney says:

    Self-doubt is definitely something I struggle with. I think it stems from my anxiety. These are fabulous ways to combat this. Thanks for sharing!

  4. This is such an important post! Taking the time to work towards your goals is essential.

  5. Jenny says:

    Yes, I love this and I am saving it for later!

    xoxo, Jenny

  6. Tamara says:

    Great post! I really enjoyed reading it, it helped me refocus on my goals!

    XoXo,

    Tamara – LoveofMode.com

  7. Kait says:

    Gosh self doubt is just the WORST! It can take a perfect day and wreak havoc! These are fantastic tips!! 🙂

  8. Ashley says:

    Another amazing read!! So many important reminders!

    xo Ashley

  9. LeighAnn says:

    This is exactly what I needed! I have so much self doubt about blogging right now.

  10. Cat says:

    As bloggers, we are all entrepreneurs. It can be so easy to fall into the trap of self-doubt, playing the comparison game and forgetting why we all started blogs in the first place. It’s so crucial to remember think optimistically!

    Cat
    Class Meets Couture

  11. Oksana says:

    Lysa Terkeurst writes about a similar concept – “underbelly” she calls it, and while it extends far beyond self-doubt, the idea is the same. So often we want to simply plow through these situations to get them over with, but it’s vital to stop and examine the underlying issue and why you’re experiencing these emotions towards it. Great read, thanks for sharing!

  12. Teresa says:

    What a great read. I definitely needed this. I can have so much self-doubt, and I fee like it prevents me from reaching my true potential!

    • Elana Lyn Gross says:

      Definitely! It’s something we all struggle with, but we can accomplish so much more if we quite the self-doubt.

  13. I always enjoy your posts. I come away with tidbits to energize my soul.

  14. Tiffani says:

    These are great! I shared how I dealt with fear earlier this year and your post seriously reminded me how important it is to never let fear or doubt get in the way.

  15. Sara Kate says:

    Perspective is everything. Changing the “what if I fail” to “what if I succeed” is brilliant!

    xo,
    Sara Kate Styling

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